He’s nervous because she’s six inches taller than he is. The advice he gets is so cute, you’ll melt into a puddle.
When you need advice but don’t want to turn to Mom Dad, and it is too embarrassed to ask your friends, the Internet is usually where you go, right? One 13-year-old Redditor, MineCraftCuber, asked people on the site for tips for smoothly putting his arm around his taller girlfriend (they’re at the hand-holding stage currently). The post is so sweet, we almost got cavities just from reading it.
“So I have been with this girl for about 2 months now, and we have recently started to hold hands etc.,” he wrote. “We have told each other we love each other etc. But never actually kissed or anything like that. So what I want to do is put my arm around her, however, she is about 6 inches taller than me. Would it be weird for me to do that? I feel like when we are lying next to each other on the couch, she slumps more than me, and we’re about the same height, her maybe ~2 inches taller than me. Would she be too tall for me to do this? Would she think it would be weird? Or would she be ok with it?”
The Internet can sometimes be a mean, intimidating place, but the 200+ commenters were nothing but supportive.
“Put your arm around her!” one commenter encouraged. “If it feels right, it’s right. If it feels uncomfortable, just adjust. She won’t think any less of you if you put your arm around her.”
“Try putting your arm around her waist instead of her shoulder,” another suggested. “Or bend your elbow so your hand is on her shoulder but your elbow is in the middle of her back.”
A bunch of guys chimed in with the parrot trick: “Ask her if she was a pirate which shoulder would she wear a parrot on. This one? (put your hand on her closest shoulder) Or this one? (put your arm around her and rest your hand on her other shoulder),” one said.
This story has a happy ending! After the Internet came to his rescue, MineCraftCuber was able to work up the courage to put his arm around his girlfriend.
“Earlier today, we watched the final movie in the 3 part that we were watching, and I put my arm around her, using everyone’s tips together,” he wrote. “I put my arm more around her waist than on her shoulders, as many people suggested. She curled up on me, and as many other people said, she seemed to enjoy being small and just not giving a care in the world. Thank you everyone that helped me, and thanks for all the nice things you said to me.”
This story is a thrilling reminder that everyone gets nervous about dating. If you’re shy or scared about making a move (or your SO making a move), you’re not alone.